As a kid, I loved to read. I read about characters who were brave, strong and adventurous. Being the shy, people-pleaser allowed my imagination to run wild.
I have been expanding my comfort zone ever since.
Quizzes have always been a form of entertainment (with a healthy dose of truth).
This time, I would come face-to-face with small truths about the kind of person I am.
In a way, it fits with my needs to improve, do better and try a new strategy. I realise that in itself is something to work on.
I often look to the future or the next project. I forget how far I’ve come mentally, emotionally and even financially.
Here are some things I learned about taking this personalities test.
My type: Advocate — INFJ.
Strengths and weaknesses can be an indicator of how well we’re doing and what needs to be addressed.
1. Creative — Combining a vivid imagination with a strong sense of compassion, Advocates use their creativity to resolve not technical challenges, but human ones. People with the Advocate personality type enjoy finding the perfect solution for someone they care about. This strength makes them excellent counsellors and advisors.
This is one of the truest strengths I’ve known since I was young. I’ve always had the urge to help people. Sometimes in unconventional ways. No matter what situation a person was in. I could not walk away from a someone who asked for my help. Though these skills have evolved as I’ve matured, it is still a huge part of what makes me tick!
2. Insightful — Seeing through dishonesty and disingenuous motives, Advocates step past manipulation and sales tactics and into a more honest discussion. Advocate personalities see how people and events are connected. They are then able to use that insight to get to the heart of the matter.
Whenever I take these quizzes, I am often brought back to ‘the beginning’. This usually means my childhood. I enjoyed hanging around other kids who spoke their mind. Large groups although fun, did not appeal to me long term. I suppose that could be why as an adult, I prefer to keep my circle small. Quality over quantity!
What strengths have you notice last the test of time? What strengths have you developed? Can these inform your behaviour and career choices?
1. Perfectionistic — Advocate personalities are all but defined by their pursuit of ideals. While this is a wonderful quality in many ways, an ideal situation is not always possible — in politics, in business, in romance. Advocates, especially Turbulent ones, too often drop or ignore healthy and productive situations and relationships, always believing there might be a better option down the road.
I’ve realised in the last 6 months that I pursue a form of perfection. As it explains above, I tend to look forward to a new project or listing ways to be a version of ‘perfect’ I envision in my mind.
It’s time I begin to accept that it is impossible. Yes, this is what drives me to do my best every single day, but it can also hinder me by not starting. Or not going to an event.
It’s time to begin. No matter what I think can be improved.
2. Sensitive — When someone challenges or criticizes Advocates’ principles or values, they are likely to receive an alarmingly strong response. People with the Advocate personality type are highly vulnerable to criticism and conflict. Questioning their motives is the quickest way to their bad side.
This has always been a trait that is good and bad. As an adult, I have worked so hard to have a thick skin when it comes to criticism. I worked in hospitality for 10 years. Many of you would know the amount of yelling, frustration and exasperation that’s thrown at you daily. At times, it felt like I could never do anything right. Toward the end, I believed I was worthless. The years and hours I dedicated to delivering excellent customer service meant nothing. That became toxic.
Today, I welcome constructive feedback. It is important that whenever a colleague or friend offers feedback, that it builds my skill-set. Degrading comments are not tolerated anymore.
Have your weaknesses been holding you back? Could they be ‘re-worked’ so that you focus on the positive side? Instead of being sensitive to any feedback, can you start welcoming constructive feedback?
Being a good person does not have to be based on external responses.
Advocate personality types are unlikely to go for friendships of circumstance. They avoid situations like workplace social circles or chatting up their local baristas, where the only thing they really have in common is regular contact. — 16Personalities
I prefer to cultivate friendships and relationships with people who are like-minded. Long-term, stable relationships are the way to go. People who are free to be themselves whenever we hang out.
It’s difficult for me to be around people who degrade others, focus on material wealth and use fear to control others.
For a long time, I thought that if I couldn’t be friends with everyone (at work or at uni) that there was something wrong with me.
Am I not a “people person”?
The truth is, we are all a ‘people person’. It just shows differently.
I don’t need to be liked by everyone to know I’m a good person with good intentions.
We all have our good days and bad days. Sometimes we’re not going to smile at every stranger we pass. Sometimes we just felt like buying a coffee for our colleague.
Know that external responses does not change who you are.
As long as I’m taking steps toward my goal, it’s okay to test the waters.
Where Advocates struggle is in work that doesn’t take personal needs into consideration, is overly repetitious, or promotes conflict. Jobs with these traits will leave Advocate personality types frustrated and unfulfilled. They can also struggle under the criticism and pressure that comes with jobs in corporate politics or sales.
Advocate personalities are clever and can do well in any of these fields. To be truly happy, however, they need to be able to work in a way that aligns with their values and allows them some independence. They need opportunities to learn and grow alongside the people they are helping and contribute to the well-being of humanity on a personal level. — 16Personalities
Through my years in customer service, what I loved most, was building rapport with customers. In the restaurants I worked at, it was easy to have regulars who’d come in for a meal or coffee every day. The environment was relaxed, they enjoyed their meal and the encounters were lovely. For the most part, I could be honest with my team and with the customers I served.
The food and coffee sold itself. I just had to serve it. Complete with friendliness and warmth!
My passion for food and good service trumped any sales job I tried thereafter.
I had a door-knocking stint for three days. Although what was being ‘sold’ was a good cause (cancer research), I could not find the words.
I felt confident with my team, but as soon as I was addressing strangers in their homes, I felt like a fish out of water.
What did I get myself into?
I did not get paid by the hour. I closed 1 and a half deals. That’s why this job lasted 3 days.
When I started my job in retail, I was thrilled. I couldn’t believe that I could wear cute outfits — not to mention prints — to work. It was a creative’s dream!
However, I found the grind of selling very impersonal. I loved the products and the quality, but I could not translate that in the form of a “natural pitch”.
Selling is not my strong point. Although it is a skill that anyone can learn, I did not have the resources or the energy to dive head-first.
I could build rapport and make lasting friendships. Customers and colleagues could tell me a personal, harrowing or triumphant story. But I could not close a sale.
Testing the waters made me realise what I was good at. It made me realise that I could try anything! The opportunities are endless! However, my focus had to be on addressing my goals and eventually, achieving them.
That means focusing on my strengths and passions: creativity and earning my degree in psychology.
“In the end, it’s your actions, how you respond to circumstance, that reveals your character.” — Cate Blanchett
Taking this quiz reminds me that I am on the right path.
A path to build a meaningful life and make the world a better place. Even in my little world, from this small-ish city in South Australia.