What Happens When You Prioritise Self-care

The ups and downs of growth.

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When you realise that it is time to focus on your needs and your goals, your social commitments change. You begin to focus on things and people that truly matter. You prefer not to get caught-up in the drama.

Some may be happy for you, and others will be disappointed. You are no longer pandering to what they want or need. That change in dynamic may be surprising. That’s okay. Keep doing you.

You are not easy to access anymore. You are able to draw a clear line of what you can and cannot do. You say no more often and are careful to take on more than you’re capable. You’re also more aware of the people you surround yourself with. Not everyone is invited to share your friendship.

Rather than neglecting your needs and goals, your behaviour will change to reflect your new priorities. New habits, new you! Things that once felt comfortable are not an option. It’s time for growth. It’s time to adapt and adopt new habits that serve you.

You will begin to admit difficult truths, because you know it is what you need, not what you want to hear. This will extend into your friendships and relationships. You aren’t about making excuses anymore. It is time to get real about day-to-day living and life choices.

Although you prefer the hard-truth, you are also able to see multiple concepts at once. In a heated discussion, you aren’t thinking about how to prove them wrong. You are genuinely interested in their thoughts and feelings. When you respond, it’s not about belittling or shaming — it’s about learning.

Because you are spending time taking care of yourself, you may find you have more energy to understand others in a deeper way. You know how difficult it has been to change, grow and learn new habits. You understand that others may experience this too. Prioritising self-care doesn’t mean life tragedies stop happening. You just find healthier ways to cope. In doing so, you are compassionate when other people are doing it tough.

Now that you’re putting you first, you might notice painful memories creeping into your thought patterns. This is going to happen. As you practice thinking without judgement, these memories sting less. You’ll be able to look at the past memories from a distance and say, “That happened, I am no longer there.”

When people in your friendship group starts a business or venture, generally family and friends flock to see what they have to offer. I think it is the same with personal development. When others notice the change within you, they may consider asking how you did it. At the end of the day, we are all trying our best until we come across new ideas, habits and information to switch it up. That’s how we are as humans — we strive for progress.

At the end of the day, self-care is what you make it. When you learn to prioritise your responsibilities, needs and goals, change is inevitable. And if people do walk away, having less people around you isn’t necessarily a loss.

Your local well-being enthusiast! I love learning and sharing about mental health, mindset, love and life lessons. Follow along at thetinyhealer.com :)

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